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English 100/100S

11/13/17

The Abused and Forgotten Gender

Sexism merely is a
prejudice or discrimination supported sex or gender, committed almost explicitly
against ladies and women.  The origin of
discrimination isn’t clear. However it is believed to have emerged from the
second wave of feminism of the Sixties and Nineteen Eighties. It had been
conjointly developed on the civil rights movement like racism that could be
prejudice or discrimination supported race (Bridges, n.d.). Gender
discrimination is often the belief that one sex is superior to or additionally
valuable than another sex. It creates limitations to what men and boys should
and should not do and what ladies and women should and should not do. The
construct of sexism was initially developed to lift consciousness regarding the
oppression of girls and women, though, by the beginning of 21st century, it had
been swollen to incorporate the abuse of any sex, as well as men and boys,
inter-sexuality, and transgender people (Wasserstrom 1997). My goal is to
demonstrate that Sexism is a real problem not just for women and young girls
but also is a major problem that impacts the lives of men and young boys from a
very young age by the way boys are raised, treated and some of the things that
they must face and suffer through.

Picture the following
scene: Recently, there was a report within the local dailies where the reporter
claimed that the restaurant owner had sexually harassed one server. The local
news conjointly reports that the server was rarely given career chances due to
gender discrimination. As a result of all this gender discrimination and public
harassment, the server opted for a second job to support a family of 5. The
server is currently filing charges against the restaurant owner for
inappropriate behavior (Bridges, n.d.). 
Did you picture the server as male or female? Affirmatively, you
probably did imagine the server as a female and anybody reading this, may make
the same image. It has been in the news all over the world that women are the
target for gender discrimination. However, from the start of the nineteenth
century, discussions on the sexism campaign started rising to the general
public attention.

 Molestation of girls isn’t tolerated in
today’s society and that’s how it should be. For example, just like the
highlighted case above, where the waiter is gender discriminated by the female
owner of the restaurant, most sane, just, and civilized people would view that
sort of behavior as unacceptable, and rightly so. What happens to the cases
where men are sexually harassed and denied their career opportunities at
numerous firms and workplaces around the world (Wasserstrom 1997).

It is positively clear
that acquisition is the primary reason for several cases of gender
discrimination of reverse discrimination presently. Notwithstanding the
incorrect actions committed against women creates unpleasant reality, several
legal practitioners tend to forget that constant injustices are also equal for
men. There are sexism instances of men facing the problems of gender
discrimination everywhere in the world and nobody talks regarding it. The
society must always bear in mind that there are two sides of the story as there
are two sides of the gender discrimination (Drury & Kaiser, 2014).

Sexism against men
nowadays within the world is not taken seriously. Women will get away with
plenty of what guys’ will get caught with these days (Drury & Kaiser,
2014). There are many major things that ladies will do, and it’s acceptable in
a society that guys can’t do. It is unfair to treat men otherwise. The approach
we tend to view sexism, is that it only applies to women. By definition sexism
is “prejudice or
discrimination based on sex” (Webster’s Dictionary). That means that
women, by default can’t be the only ones impacted by the patriarchy of our
society.

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constant precise issue, punishments would be served. It would be suspension,
expulsion, and or they may even be charged with molestation and would become a
felon and a convict (Benatar, 2012). We have gone from women being property and
not taken seriously within the universe to overprotecting them and babying
them. Their overprotection is not taken seriously once they get away with
molestation crimes. Individuals ought to be treated equally, or they ought to
be ready to depart with constant crimes. It goes below the stereo kind that
guys only measure in manliness and don’t have feelings and the way they’ll
merely shake things off with no sense. That’s, however, society’s stereotype of
men.

Many women in today’s
society, not all, view men in a negative light. Name’s that are often slung
towards males are as following; jerk, douche, dick, a**hole, etc. How did they
come to this conclusion one may ask? Some argue that is has to do with the
media’s influence. The average women sees a man cheated on his wife on the
news. That woman then believes that most men are like this and may treat them
as such. This is a rather extreme and possibly uncommon example but the point
is there. The point being that the media acts as a filter to determine what the
mainstream population views and how they view it. As consumers, the information
shown to us enters our subconscious and secretly influences out thoughts and
actions. It’s a pretty common and well-known issue that the media has a large
influence on how we see the outside world and how it gets interpreted for us. A
prime example of that is the debacle that google faced when people found out
that the search engine could be potentially racist. If one were to google
“three white teenagers,” you would get pictures of teenagers playing and having
fun. If you google “three black teenagers,” it shows more often than not, black
teenagers in mugshot type photos. Google retorted with the defense that “its image search results are a
reflection of what’s on the Web, including the frequency with which certain
types of images appear and how they are described” (Guynn, 2016)

One other instance in
which the media and social outlets display men in a negative light would be
that of certain books. These titles include but are not limited to “No
Good Men.” and “Men Who Can’t Love.” (Farrell 2014). For
instance, having just read The Color
Purple, every man in that book was portrayed negatively except for the
preacher. The men were seen as abusers, rapists, and violent. After reading
this book people may think that a lot or most men are this way. Now most people
are not easily influenced by one book but after reading many with the same
stance on “evil, authoritative men,” people will begin to think and feel that
way towards the men in their lives with more and more things trying to
influence their lives and their way of thinking.

Other cases in which men
experience sexism and may not even realize it, is the constant pressure they
may feel in today’s society to be the “all in one” so to speak. Men are
pressured unendingly to be successful, to do amazing things with their lives,
to BE somebody. Men are often not considered very successful if they don’t meet
all or most of the following traits; getting married and subsequently having
children, singly handedly providing for their family, high education, and a
successful and long career. Men who cannot meet that criteria are more often
than not seen as partial or even full-blown failures. “Men are no longer worth
as much without money and successful careers” (Benatar, 2012).

A good example of the
previously mentioned struggles and stereotypes that men had to face in the past
and still tend to face, are the constant drafts to go to war. Men are the main
force of those who went off to war during pretty much all of history in every
culture. Now there are some instances where women were used as snipers for
example in Russia. But outliers aside, men are the grunts that get sent into
the fray. Men are the ones getting told by Uncle Sam: “I want YOU for U.S.
Army.” There is an almost unbearable social pressure put upon young men to join
the military. Personally, I tried to join the Marines myself, large in part due
to the pressure that was place upon me. My father was in the Air Force and I
wanted him to be proud of me so I attempted to get in the Marines.
Unfortunately, I couldn’t join due to health reasons but I still went for it. I
felt like it was my civic duty to help defend our nation from anything that may
try to harm our great nation.

Moving on to women and
careers, it is somewhat acceptable in our society for young women to marry a rich
and wealthy man and never have to work. However, it is seen as strange or even
socially wrong for a man to “marry rich”. It is just not a common theme in our
society so like anything out of the norm, it is frowned upon. That man would be
accused of marrying her for her money, while often times that slander is not
thrown towards the women who often do the same thing which may be because
that’s just the way it has been in our society so that is what we are used to;
we no longer make a big deal out of it. Wealthy men have always been the
standard in society. Typically, anybody who was anybody in the history of the
U.S., could be pretty accurately described in two words that start with W;
Wealthy and White. “Occupational achievement, measured by using job
reputation or monetary success, has become the yardstick of modern-day
masculinity for middle-aged or upper-class America” (Benatar, 2012). Men
in today’s society must be able to bring home the bacon so to speak, be the
head of their house-hold, and protect their family. The standard for “a real
man” has been raised even higher than previous years.

“Real men” is an abstract
concept developed by society to label and categorize men into fitting a
stereotype that more often than not, men sometimes may fit. As the head of the
house-hold, men have to be a caretaker for their family. They have to be harsh
and dole out punishments yet still be gentle and sensitive enough to care about
their children’s feelings. Not to mention, in today’s society, both men and
women suffer from the grievance of having to keep themselves prim and proper
and keep up their good looks.  

Continuing that thought,
both young men and young women are taught at a semi-early age that looks often
have a lot to do with the pecking order along with success. Women are taught to
wear makeup to look pretty for all the guys, whereas guys are told to bulk up
with muscles to look attractive for the girls. One can guess by these two
comparisons that it is easier for a woman to become “attractive for the
opposite sex” by putting on makeup. For guys, the pressure to gain muscles and
bulk up is a lot easier said than done. Many males just simply don’t possess
the metabolism nor the body style to be able to bulk up and keep it up.

Now both Men and Women
face discrimination; of that there is no doubt. Throughout history, just a
simple glance through any relevant history textbook will reveal that women have
been treated incredibly poorly throughout history. But in recent years, many
will find that the patriarchy that first started the oppression against women,
is now oppressing the men as well. What was once a “woman’s problem” has now
reared its ugly head and turned itself into a “man’s problem as well. But
what’s wrong with society today is that a lot of people’s thoughts on this
situation is where the blame lies for their own gender’s mistreatment. If we
are going to work together to eliminate discrimination, we have to focus on a
solution, not point fingers. There is certainly no problem working towards the
betterment of treatment in every category. But we mustn’t forget the men who
often face similar problems. For example, at many workplaces, women lobby for
better maternity leave benefits. That is all fine and dandy, but we as a
society can’t forget that men typically want to spend time with their newborn
child as well. Thus, we should be lobbying for better paternity leave benefits
as well. Not to mention fathers in custody cases rarely ever win their battle
for their child. A report from the United States Census Bureau by Timothy Grall
states that only one in every six custodial parents were fathers. Now what the
idea of feminism is doing for women is great, equal treatment for equal work,
but we shouldn’t just give one hundred percent of society’s attention to one
issue. As a society we must not forget about the other side of the story and forget
about the guys. Similarly, Robert Moore, who is a psychoanalyst at the C.G Jung
Institute at Chicago, states “that it is funny to conclude that “the
empowerment of women means the disempowerment of men. Men and women obtain
equal treatment, and the only way that it will happen is if our society
realizes that there is no such issue as the ‘better sex.'” Both men and
women need to come together to work together to end sexism.

David Benatar does bring
up valid points that each gender has things to complain about. Regarding
earlier mention points, girls of yesterday’s society were told to be just “good
little housewives” and do all the cooking and cleaning for the house while the
husband goes out to work. The men of yesterday’s society were taught to be the
breadwinners, the main meat in the military, and the man of the house. Nowadays
the definition of men and women’s roles in our current society have changed for
the better. Women are encouraged to get careers and support themselves instead
of relying on a man. Men’s social roles haven’t really changed all that much
though. In that sense, we have to remember that we as a whole, should be
working towards a common solution to end sexism as previously mentioned.

As mentioned earlier,
Sexism is the discrimination against someone based on their gender, be that
they may be male or female. The goal of this paper was to demonstrate that women,
while previously being the main target of oppression, oppression now encompasses
more than just women. Men are now in the crosshairs of the patriarchal oppressors
of our society. Men too, face many challenges that are often not considered or even
more so, simply glossed over. Men are often told to just suck it up and deal with
it when facing the same problem as a woman, while women are helped out and cared
for. As a community, we need to work together to end sexism on both fronts, not
just sexism against women, but that of men as well.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Annotated Bibliography

Bell, A. N.,
& Goff, P. A. (n.d.). The essence of men is…sexist?: Perceiving
biological bases of sexism in males inhibits confronting sexism. PsycEXTRA
Dataset. doi:10.1037/e578192014-071

            The authors here debate and
demonstrate via this piece that men are often the cause of sexism at its core
in regards to sexism towards their own gender. Essentially it’s brought about
via themselves.

Benatar, D.
(2012). The Second Sexism. doi:10.1002/9781118192337

            Here Benatar denotes and talks
through with his audience how sexism doesn’t impact just women, but rather it
affects men and boys at a very young age. Sexism shapes and mold young men
through the things they are told and the actions they do and how they are
treated.

From
Disadvantage to Wrongful Discrimination. (2012). The Second Sexism,
101-172. doi:10.1002/9781118192337. ch4 (Continued
from Benatar, D.)

Bridges, T. S.
(n.d.). National Organization for Men Against Sexism. Encyclopedia of Gender
and Society. doi:10.4135/9781412964517.n302

            NOMAS is all about helping and
shedding light on those who are affected by Sexism, typically men.
“The National Organization for Men Against Sexism is an activist organization
of men and women supporting positive changes for men. NOMAS advocates a
perspective that is pro-feminist, gay affirmative, anti-racist, dedicated to
enhancing men’s lives, and committed to justice on a broad range of social
issues including class, age, religion, and physical abilities.”

Pinfold, M. J.
(n.d.). Reverse Sexism. American Masculinities: A Historical Encyclopedia.
doi:10.4135/9781412956369.n201

This seminal book opened new vistas for
exploration and research into American History, society, and culture. Displaying
the story of American history, American Masculinities illustrates how American political
leaders have often used the rhetoric of manliness to underscore the always
assumed moral righteousness and protective purposes of their policies. Seeing
U.S. history in terms of gender archetypes, those who read this encyclopedia will
gain a richer and deeper understanding of America’s democratic political
system, domestic and foreign policies, and capitalist economic system.

Merriam-Webster.com: Definition of Sexism

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sexism

^ Literally just the definition of Sexism.

Grall,
Timothy (2016). Custodial Mothers and
Fathers and Their Child Support: 2013

https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/publications/2016/demo/P60-255.pdf

            This
report on custodial households showcases how child support is given, who is the
primary custodial parent in most situations, how much the parents make on
average and lots of other useful information regarding this topic. This census
was taken during 2010-2012 but was published in 2013.

Guynn, Jessica (2016). ‘Three black
teenagers’ Google search sparks outrage

            https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/news/2016/06/09/google-image-search-three-black-teenagers-three-white-teenagers/85648838/

            This article is about the
scandal that google faced during 2016 regarding a twitter post showcasing how Google’s
search results were racist. Google then apologized for it’s search engine’s mistakes
and commentated saying that the results were based off algorithms and the results
that people using the search engine wanted to see.

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